People who are too hard on themselves actually go through a lot of struggles and this can only be understood by people of the same calibre.
I have decided to share those 10 struggles that only people who are too hard on themselves understand.
1 You can’t fall asleep peacefully. Going to bed is a struggle for you because you replay every interaction you’ve had in your head. What you could have done differently, what you could have said better. Sometimes this even goes back to years ago.
2 You are never satisfied. No matter how talented you are or how much others praise you, you always feel like you could have done better or that you didn’t do well enough.
3 You don’t like to ask for help, even when you need it. Because it makes you feel like you’re too weak or incapable of solving it on your own. When you ask for help, you feel very guilty about it. You want to do everything alone and you don’t want to be a burden to anyone.
4 You feel bad when your friends are not having fun. You feel responsible for their happiness. You think it’s your problem when they don’t have enough fun and that’s why you try to solve it.
5 You can’t stop thinking about a point of criticism you’ve received. You’re already so critical of yourself, so when someone confirms your flaws, you’ll remember this for months.
6 You don’t believe it when people compliment you. When someone compliments you, you think they just want to be nice and don’t mean what they say. And of course you don’t compliment yourself at all.
7 You hate being vulnerable. You don’t want people to know that you may not be as strong as you seem. You are known as a strong person and you don’t want this to change. You even find it difficult to be vulnerable with your closest friends and family.
8 You think people will never forgive you. If you make a small mistake or if you offend someone, you believe that this person will never forgive you and will always remember this. You expect people to be hard on you, just like you are hard on yourself.
9 You often apologize. For things you’ve done and things you haven’t done. You’re apologizing for traffic, a storm, and other things you have absolutely no control over. Saying sorry feels very natural.
10 You find it difficult to receive love. You think you have so many things to work on on yourself that it’s impossible for anyone to love you right now. Even when someone loves you you think it is temporary, not real or not sincere. You expect people to leave when you really get to know you. This makes you wary and you find it difficult to let people in.